Monday, December 31, 2007

Xinnian Kuai le (Happy New Year!)




Not sure if my photos came through -- blogger is sluggish this evening ...but we have a head start on 2008 (and we started even earlier because the kids were sleepy)...so here's to a happy 2008 for all!!! 8 is a lucky number for the Chinese -- especially in financial affairs -- small wonder that the Olympics are starting on 08-08-08 at 8:08 pm. A few of you may remember that I had a car accident on 08-08-88 (can it really be 20 years ago!) at 8:08 -- so I am hoping to change my luck this time!

We a had a quiet celebration at home since Thomas has a cold-- baked some cookies in my new oven, oh joy, and had a toast and some small fireworks/confetti with the kids....the fireworks are a good story. I bought these 2 tubes because I thought they were wrapping paper. Then I realized they were decorated tubes and concluded that they were some kind of Christmas cracker. We decided to do them tonight. Of course I was holding the first one upside down and shot my self in the leg with a mighty force. Remember those little poppers you can buy for Chinese New Year? These were the super size of those, and by the time we did the second one -- more safely over our heads, the apartment was completely full of confetti...here's to something else we would never find in the US, land of excessive safety and litigation!

Friday, December 28, 2007

A playdate, a party and the wonder of Skype


Helen's friend Rouen came over this afternoon, and they did their best to make the largest craft mess that the apartment has ever seen-- but also had a great time doing it. Of course Sophia had a great time "helping". Then they watched Mulan in Chinese (for Rouen) with English subtitles (for Helen).Amazing how this bilingual friendship seems to work.

Tonight we went to the restaurant next door to our building for the holiday party given by the University for the foreign professors and instructors. It came at a good time, because we are still missing Deborah and Kate and also said goodbye to another friend today, and so are really feeling the need to make some new connections. There are teachers here from all over the world. In the guesthouse there are Thai, Japanese, German and Taiwanese...and tonight we saw other Americans, Europeans, Australians, Africans....a very diverse group and some familiar faces. After dinner, some of the international office staff got up to do some amateur entertainment..some was quite surprising, including some off key singing and a fair performance on of all things, an accordion.

The girls livened up the party with some dancing..

The famous "Amoy Bill", longest standing foreigner in Xiamen and author of "Amoy Magic", got up to share some humor and a song in Chinese...

And the finale was a great pop/rap song performed quite well by 2 of the African students...they drafted Helen to dance with them at one point.

On top of all this, Thomas is invited on two playdates tomorrow, so I guess we are having a social weekend.

We came home to find that Grandpa was calling us over Skype using his new webcam. Sophia gets quite excited to see him and tries to reach out and grab the little grandpa inside the computer..."That is Grampa...he's a man" was her comment afterwards.

If you don't know about Skype, you should..free calling anywhere in the world over the internet...and with a few cheap webcams, we have video conferencing....cool.

Thursday, December 27, 2007

Third Intermittant Chinglish Post

We seem to be in a post-Holiday energy funk. We parents, that is. As is usually the case when the kids are filled with energy, the parents are drained. As my sister-in-law Carol said "it's because they suck the energy right out of you!".

Ann has been too tired to post, and since my brother was looking for more Chinglish, I decided to post a short one. Too tired to scour all our files, I will find the rest of them within a week or so and post again on Chinglish.

Below, you see a true to its essence Chinglish sign. This is like the Platonic form of Chinglish signs (to you philosophers out there). We saw it at an upscale restaurant with our Chinese tutor Vicki and our neighbors Deborah and Kate.

In fact, Ann couldn't figure it out for the longest time until we explained it. It means (I think): don't bring any alcohol beyond this point.

Below was a sign at the newly opened tourist site Guang Zai Shan, a mountain area we hiked with our Xiamen U. colleagues. The carver seemed to have high aspirations and an equally high level of concern for hikers.

Unfortunately, it didn't quite work out.

The sign below doesn't count as Chinglish at all, but I liked it a lot.

We didn't go to the toilet or the tourist service center, but we did stay under the Banyan tree and enjoy the cool shade.

I want to warn you that the menu below has one of the more disturbing items of information we have come across on any continent. No, we are not discussing the "Condon Blue Pork Chop". [And isn't that just one letter away from a complete loss of appetite?]

Nope, just above it they are offering "Donald Duck" for a mere 38 RMB. I've missed Donald. I've not seen him in Disney features for quite a while, and now we know why. He's been served on a platter in Longyuan, Fujian, China.

The sign below is befuddling for two reasons. First the spelling is so atrocious that you cannot grasp what it means at all. Apparently, based on the little picture, it says "No Crossing".

But not only is "No Oyossihg" difficult to grasp, the notion that anyone would jump off this roof is truly absurd. We were 4 floors up in an old Hakka roundhouse [see the December list of posts]. You can look at the pictures and recognize the danger. Certainly if anyone were stupid and daring enough to jump, they wouldn't be held back by a "No Oyissihg" sign.

Last night we had dinner with some Chinese faculty in the English department. The subject of Chinglish came up, and, true to English teacher form all over the world, they began yelling and screaming about all the atrocious grammar and spelling. It is good to know that wherever there are English teachers, there is a concern for good spelling and grammar!

Tuesday, December 25, 2007

Merry Christmas everyone!!!


We have been quite merry here today on a beautiful sunny Christmas Day..we actually got up before the kids this year, since we had them out so late last night. Above is the outpouring of gifts from all over...so wonderful and exciting for the kids -- who I think had not been sure what to expect..
Sophia was covered in chocolate within about 4 minutes of waking up...


Sophia and her gingerbread puzzle.

Helen with the art set of her dreams. Santa brought her an electronic piano, which after one day is clearly going to be a burden for the ears of the family, as is Sophia's xylophone. At least Thomas's new crop of video games and books keeps him out of my hair for a while!

I found Michael the perfect Chinglish-esque shirt here - it has the name of our alma mater on it --University of Detroit. Wrong colors, and the patches are from Dickinson and Iona College in New Rochelle New York. Had to have it -- just too strange to pass up. Of course he got some other stuff, too :)


Thomas is delighted with the size and shape of this box which her guessed might contain the long awaited Heroscape game.

I was delighted with a tea set for "everyday use" here -- as well as my Tibetan bracelet.

We hosted the Christmas Day dinner for a few friends -- our neighbors who are leaving tomorrow for America :( as well as our friends Roger, who is teaching English in the business school at Xiada this year. It was a decent meal, I think, especially the eggplant Parmesan that Michael made in the new toaster oven.

Roger in his role as honorary grandparent...

The hardest moment today was hanging up the call with my parents this morning...it was Christmas Eve for them and Grandpa read "Twas the Night Before Christmas" to all the grandkids over the Skype (web based calling with video) and it reminded us how much we really do miss everyone -- just too busy to notice usually. But after a walk on the beach our dinner preparations began, the kids were busy with their toys, and we made our own circle of friendship and love here in China in honor of the day. Tomorrow Kate and Deborah are leaving in the morning, and Deborah and I can hardly look at each other without tearing up, so I think it will be a hard parting.

A moonlit Christmas Eve


It has been a full day, a day of remembering friends and family far away, but especially a day of warmth and companionship. I have always been a person quite committed to the Christmas traditions -- what we eat, where we go, what decorations -- I like to follow the family tradition each year. In fact I have never not woken up in my parents home on Christmas morning.

Of course we have to approach this holiday thing a bit differently. But I have been inspired by gladness all day today. First, it was the lobby of the guest house, decked out by the staff with 2 Christmas trees and lights on the play house. Then it was the way every Chinese person I met today wished me Shang Dan Kuai Le (Merry Christmas). And it was our neighbor from Germany inviting the children to tea and reading a Hans Christian Anderson story, giving each a small present. We have made a new way of celebrating for ourselves this year.

This morning we went on a shopping trip in a quest for Christmas finery.




Then we took the ferry to Gulanyu -- the island was so beautiful lit up tonight. But my camera just couldn't capture it. Our friend Tian came along, as well as our neighbors. Here is Kate's new haircut:



After dinner we waled around in the shops for a while. The full moon was out and it was a perfectly clear and lovely evening, pleasant and warm enough to shed our coats for a while.

Deborah takes a break from her last minute shopping....

Finally we made it to our church for the service. Christmas Eve is the big Mass here -- because most people don't have the 25th off of work. There was a really packed Chinese service followed by the English Mass. Both were held outside under the stars in the courtyard, to accommodate the crowds.

There was a moment during the liturgy..when I realized that the stripping away of holiday "Traditions" has had a deep impact on me this year. It was a moment of purity, of being overwhelmed by the beauty and simplicity of the idea of Christ born in Bethlehem , and reborn in our hearts. The choir was singing Silent Night, and as I walked up to communion through the crowd Chinese, Filipino, Europeans, Africans...I was so moved by the scene and my own realization that Christmas had indeed come again -- without baking cookies, beautiful snow, mistletoe, a month of carols on the radio, all my precious ornaments, without even our extended family....Christmas was very much here in this place, even though we had had to look a little harder to find it.



Finally we were back home, and ready to hang stockings and head off to bed..the children are confident that Santa will find us here, and our holiday will be a merry one indeed -- we wish the very same to all of you.

Saturday, December 22, 2007

The goodbyes begin -- our last noodle lunch


Deborah ( our neighbor and fellow Fulbrighter) and I have a favorite restaurant. It is tucked away in a neighborhood near campus, but you have to go up a dark alley to reach it. Suddenly you are welcomed by the sight of a lovely garden patio restaurant, which has fruit smoothies and Shaanxi province specialties in addition to great noodle soups. It's tiny, the food is great and you can eat outside, but away from the bustle of the street. Deborah and I (and of course Sophia, our lunchtime companion) have eaten there many times, and Thursday we went for the last time...

Deborah and her daughter opted for the one semester Fulbright and are leaving the day after Christmas to our great regret, and theirs, I think. Having another family to share the adventures with and make those early weeks less isolated and overwhelming has meant so much to all of us. They are leaving the day after Christmas, and Deborah and I keep getting to the point in our conversations of getting a little teary, and then quickly putting the thought off for another day....but they have begun to pack and have their goodbyes with students, friends, etc., so I will soon have to face the prospect of some lonelier lunches, and we will all find ourselves missing the people who have become like family since we have been here.
Who else will appreciate the fun of Sophia in restaurants and her emerging chopstick skills?

Tomorrow Deborah is hosting a big party for all her students and some other friends, and today we made fudge with the ingredients I brought back from Michigan.

Deborah also talked me into buying a toaster oven, which I should have done our first week here. My biggest hesitation was space, but it so good to eat toast again! We even made brownies today! It will be handy to have around for Christmas dinner too, which I am hosting.
We all had lunch with our Chinese tutor, Vicky, at a terrific restaurant in honor of Deborah and Kate.


Kate's best friend and Thomas's best friend at XIS happen to be brother and sister, so today they came for a playdate in the afternoon, which Thomas would not let me photograph. So today was a full day, and this evening was the Christmas party for my English students, and Thomas and Helen came to help. I will post those photos tomorrow.

Friday, December 21, 2007

Raising the flag at the Xiada Kindergarten



OK -- I did not get the memo about Helen wearing red to the flag raising ceremony. But nothing could dampen my pride as I watched Helen and 4 other children lead the Kindergarten flag ceremony earlier this week. Each class takes a turn for this monthly event. They memorized a speech welcoming the teachers and xiao pengyoumen (little friends). Then they each took a turn introducing themselves to the assembly, before leading the Chinese national anthem. As I watched our Huan Huan boldly and clearly introduce herself in Chinese, I naturally got a little choked up...it was a moment of clarity for me about what my little daughter has accomplished already on our trip. She belongs here. She feels at home in China, the land of her birth. Maybe you have to be an adoptive parent to understand the meaning of this for me...when you adopt a child, of course you are welcoming them into your life and it is a generous act, although most of us adopt primarily out of our drive to have children vs. pure altruism. Adoption is a joyful event, but one which takes place in the shadow of loss -- this child has lost their birth family, and in Helen's case, being adopted by also also meant she lost her native language and citizenship, her culture. In exchange there is abundant love, and a new family, new culture, new opportunities, but........a small voice in the background wondering "what if?"
All this to say that my hope for Helen this year was not to change all of that, or pretend that 1 year in China alters the fact that she is very much an American girl in every way, but to give her a chance to "try on" China -- to have a primary experience of growing up for a time in the manner she might have if she had not lost and gained so much at such a young age. And of course, to give her the chance of speaking her native language, something she has felt strongly about since she was a toddler and first heard her own story. She has a long way to go on the language side, but her pride in being able to lead her peers in Chinese seemed to be a crucial development for her -- a moment to remember and treasure forever. Choosing her from among her classmates for this role -- her teachers have given her a great gift.


By the way -- there is videotape of this event. Some day when I am bored I will experiment with uploading it to this site or Youtube or something!

Wednesday, December 19, 2007

1000 steps up Guanzai mountain


Day 2 of our bus trip began early on the bus with a stand up comedy routine by our guide. I will give you a sample: "Deng Xiaoping (famous Chinese political leader) was visiting the US, but he doesn't speak any English. The interpreter left his side for a moment, but he was approached by a reporter, who asked "what are you going to see while you are here?" Not sure what to say, Deng introduced himself "Wo shi Deng" ("I am Deng" -- but sounds like Washington). Then the reporter asked -- "what are you going to do there?". Still not sure, Deng thought for a minute and decided to give his first name : "Xiaoping" (get it... sounds like"shopping?") You have to love bilingual puns. Not to be outdone-- Thomas walked up to the front of the bus to tell a joke of his own, to the delight (I think) of the passengers . Our first sightseeing stop was a lake near Guanzai shan, where we were treated to a scenic boat ride to admire the surrounding cliffs.

The xiao pengyou (little friends) of the trip.

I had to take a picture in the lobby of the restaurant where we had lunch. THE saddest Christmas tree ever...a dead branch stuck in a pot covered with cotton balls and a few decorations.

We began the ascent of the mountain in the afternoon, and everyone was dragging a bit except Sophia, who climbed about half the steps before being forced into the backpack.

It was steep climbing but fantastic views of the surrounding countryside, although a bit hazy.

Helen taking a rest 2/3 of the way up. I was really panting at points on this one.

Finally we reached the ridge with a fine view of the surrounding peaks.

The small pagoda at the top was our final destination. The last flight of stairs was just cut into the rock and with a sheer drop on each side, it was a challenge for me, but Helen wanted to go, and Michael had Sophia in the backpack, so I had to go ahead and just keep my eyes on the steps. It was so worth it once we got there!

Once again, Thomas is happy -- just trying to look cool:)

We agreed that this part of the path looks like a scene from The Lord of the Rings-- the "paths of the dead".

I was so proud of what good climbers the kids were on this day. I told Helen that I would take her anywhere in the world and she replied, "Good, because I want to ride on an elephant's head." Uh oh.

Back at the bus, our fellow traveler Jason was offering us a natural snack of some edible branches. Since he was a bio major in college, we went ahead and tried it -- tasted like apples.

Sophia takes a nap on a weary Daddy.

My last entry marked the 100 post mark. Thanks to everyone who has been encouraged us to keep writing by reading and commenting. A note on comments...the blogger help page can assist you with settings if you are having trouble commenting. Remember -- your comments will not appear immediately because they are sent to me first so I get a chance to read them before they are posted. Hope everyone back in the US is enjoying the holiday craze so far....

Monday, December 17, 2007

The Hakka toulou (round houses)


In south western Fuijian province, about 4 hours from Xiamen, is an area with a heavy concentration of Hakka people. They are not exactly an ethnic minority, but are a group of Han Chinese who had to migrate from the north of China about 1000 years ago and settled in Fujian province, where they were not always welcome, since farmland and other resources were scarce in this very mountainous area. Eventually they developed a style of building which is quite striking, using rammed earth and bamboo, as well as other home-grown materials such as glutinous rice to construct huge earth dwellings, most of them round (hence the term roundhouses). The University sponsored an overnight trip this weekend to see some of these buildings which are still in use by the local people. The first thing we were struck by was the enormous size...they can house entire clans together, up to several hundred people. They were built with no first floor windows "to keep out the tigers" according to the guide, and also to withstand hostile attacks by neighbors. Like all good tour groups, our first stop was lunch next door -- very simple local food, lots of pork, unidentified greens and some glutinous rice dumplings and sweets.

Also, its persimmon season and these were drying everywhere in the village, and being sold all over (we had just tried our first ones in Xiamen earlier in the week). Kind of like a sweet potato in flavor.


This was a wedding procession -- I am pretty sure it was staged for the tourists, but still colorful.

Inside the largest tulou, we found a lovely, peaceful atmosphere. The day was quite hot for December and we were all overdressed, but the tulou was cool. It has its own water supply by well, pictured above..with one well int the east and another in the west, which has some kind of fen shui significance. Our guide was very into the notion that the tulou have ideal feng shui, as well as natural heating and cooling because they are made of earth.

This large tulou was built in 1912, so it is quite new. It was built by a man who had become wealthy raising and trading tobacco. The interior was constructed beautifully of wood, and I found the circular interior very pleasing to the eye, and crying out to be photographed. The tulou is jointly owned by a group of relatives, and the guide said that since the tourists have begun to flow, competition for tourist money has disrupted the harmony of some of the extended families who live here. Also, many of the residents only spend a few weeks a year (usually at the Spring Festival) living in the village, because they need to pursue work in the cities.


We had the best time just wandering around this village. It is the off season for tourists, and we had the place pretty much to ourselves. This small shrine to a local deity was in the village square.

In the right background you can see the smallest of the four tulou in the village.

The river which ran through the village was really its defining feature. One of the other professors (an Australian marine biologist working to improve watershed health in China) on the trip remarked that it seemed to be a pretty healthy river by Chinese standards.

A woman was washing her green vegetables in the river and leaving them to dry along the bridge. We had lunch here so for her sake and ours I hope he was right!


One of the university staffers brought her 2 year old so our kids weren't the only ones.. they had a good time together, and my Chinese was just about on the two year old's level!



The focal point of the clearing in the village was a huge Banyan tree.

After a full day we were whisked away to a 4 star hotel in the big city of Longyan, about 90 minutes away. I was a little disappointed because we had seen a tulou set up as a simple inn where you can spend the night, and wanted to prolong the stay there...maybe we will go back again and do that.

Tomorrow I will bring you up to date on the rest of the trip -- 1000 steps up Guanzai mountain -- Sophia did about 500 of them herself!

Friday, December 14, 2007

Quick update

Not too much to report today, but Sophia had a very good day in potty-land, which means I will be able to get out of the apartment more again with a clear conscience soon! We picked Helen up at noon, which is my new plan for Fridays, as I feel like we never have time to sit and do any schoolwork, and I am attempting to keep her up with her class in the US. I got some new workbooks while I was in Michigan. On Friday afternoons the apartment is quiet, Sophia is napping and we had a full 90 minutes of work time and then time to start a craft (making felt people out of wool) before she woke up.

It was actually cold here today..63 or so and cloudy with a brisk wind. I can see that it will get quite chilly in the apartment with no heat on the cooler days ahead. Helen said she kept her coat on at school -- no heat there either and the "hallways" of the school are open air walkways.

Tomorrow morning early we set out on a brief overnight trip about 4 hours away in the Yongding area of the Fujian province (our province). The people here traditionally built large round dwellings made of rammed earth and glutinous rice! They apparently are quite large and would house entire clans. The best tidbit I heard is that the US government thought they were missile silos on satellite photography during the cold war. This is one of those must-see sights near to Xiamen, and the university is taking us, so we couldn't pass it up. I think we will also do some hiking in the mountains. Look forward to some photos when we get back!

Thursday, December 13, 2007

Michael Visits the Taoist Temple

Chapter Four of the Daodejing:

The Way is like an empty vessel;
No use could ever fill it up.
Vast and deep!
It seems to be the ancestor of the myriad creatures.
It blunts their sharpness;
Untangles their tangles;
Softens their glare;
Merges with their dust.
Deep and clear!
It seems to be there.
I do not know whose child it is;
It is the image of what was before the Lord himself!

Today I met my student Guo Jinjie, who has accompanied us on many trips, and we took a bus to the nearby Taoist temple.

Here you see the outer wall with the traditional yin-yang symbol that identifies it as Taoist.

Unlike the Buddhist temple next door to our residence, the Taoist temple doesn't get many visitors. In fact, we were the only people there besides the Taoists. Guo Jinjie says that while many Chinese are Taoist in a folk manner, they do not come to the temples for rituals as they do in the Buddhist temples.

Here is a nice shot of the temple front with the mountains in the background. The building to the right of the main shrine is where the Taoists live. There are five of them that live there.

Around back, we have this pretty amazing feature. It is the entire Daodejing carved into the side of the mountain. While Taoism as a folk religion is probably more than three thousand years old, the Daodejing is the central work of Taoist literature. It is said to have been written by Laozi and probably dates to the second or third century BC. The book is only 5000 characters, but still it's pretty amazing to see it carved into the mountain.

While the temple is about 500 years old, Guo thought that the carving of the Daodejing was only about 100 years old. Here is a slightly closer look at the characters along the lower right hand side of the work.

Like all traditional Chinese writing, it reads from right to left, and from top to bottom. So you begin in the upper right hand corner and read down the column to the bottom. Then you move to the next column to the left, start at the top and read down to the bottom again.

I thought that this dragon in the corner was worth a look.

This is the outer gate that leads to a complex of rooms in the old part of the temple. The red door beyond the gate leads to the cave that was the original dwelling of some Taoist monk centuries ago.

Here is the door to the cave. You can see that the cave is carved right into the mountain.

And this is the tiny cave room. I've been in it before. This time the door was locked so I put the camera through the barred window and snapped the picture. I don't know what it was like for the old Taoist back in the day, but he didn't have too much room spread out. However, a big principle of Taoism is to live in harmony with nature and the old monk would have had plenty of that out here.

Going back into the main temple, here is one of the many side altars with statues of various gods and offerings of fruit and other food and drink laid out on the table. There were about a half-dozen of these in the temple.

Below is a shot of the main altar. The supreme god is in the center with the white beard. You can see the Yin-yang sign above his head. There is also one on his garment. I can never remember his name. Much of this comes from old tales and folk practices. The gods protect people and can offer prosperity, longevity, and even immortality if things are done right.

Below is a shot of the Taoists performing the rites. We got there at about 4:40 pm because we knew that the rite started at 5 pm. There was no one there but the three Taoists, Guo and myself. The rites lasted for about 30 minutes. There was a lot of drumming at different tempos by the guy on the right. The guy in the center used several different chimes and a gong. While they were rhythmically drumming and chiming they were chanting at various different paces. Sometimes the chants were long slow refrains in which they held notes for a long time; at other times the chants were really rapid and they were reading scriptures at a quick pace.

The girl on the end was obviously in training, as she didn't do much chanting and looked lost much of the time. I did like that she had basketball shoes on under her robes. The main priest, on the right, was barefoot even though the floor was a bit cold as it was a windy night on the mountain.

After the rites, the Taoists invited us in for tea. They spoke no English (and I am not confident that they spoke Mandarin either). The two male priests looked to be in the their thirties. The young female Taoist looked to be in her early twenties. All were a bit younger than I had expected. They said that there were five of them living there, but as is often the case, some of them had to go and perform rites at somebody's funeral. They said that overall there are about fifteen different Taoists in the community who can come in and perform the ceremonies. They are held at 5 am and 5 pm every day.

Afterwards I asked Guo if the Taoists believed in the particular gods whose statues were displayed there, and he said that he didn't think that they did. They were Taoists of a more philosophical and literary sort, and they use the rituals to help learn the Taoist texts and to get in touch with heaven and earth. There is another Taoist shrine about one kilometer away that is a "local" shrine - meaning that it is dedicated to a local god recognized in that neighborhood only and that is maybe an older but more superstitious version of Taoism.

The trouble with water

So last night we were having dinner in the big on-campus restaurant. They have a menu in English, so it is usually reasonably smooth, although we once ended up with a dish featuring chicken feet and hot peppers which was completely inedible. The kids have been having too much pop lately so I wanted some water for them to drink. The fun began. Couldn't remember "mineral water" in Chinese, so I asked for shui (water) and motioned unscrewing a bottle. This has worked literally dozens of times. She brought hot water. So I said, "bu yao, yao shui bing" --I was pretty sure bing meant cold, plus I motioned shivering. So she brought a bowl of ice, to the great amusement of everyone at the table. I just kept saying shui and motioning that bottle top, and finally 2 bottles of water were produced !!! We noticed that often the other patrons are not drinking anything with their meals. Seems odd.

This whole meal was fraught with communication problems, even asking for the number of dumplings...she just did not recognize my pronunciation. Maybe she is a local speaker of Minnan for whom Mandarin is a far distant language? Or could my tones be so bad that she didn't recognize the number 15? I prefer to think it was her, not me!

Speaking of language learning..Helen's class is having a flag raising ceremony on Monday for the school (the classes take turns) As it turns out, Helen is one of 6 children chosen for a little speaking part, which she has been practicing. She says, in Chinese "Wo shi da san ban de Huan Huan xiao pengyou" (I am the Big Third class's Little Friend Huan Huan). It really pleases me that Helen's teacher is willig to put the extra time in with her and seeks out chances for Helen to develop her Chinese. Of course Helen loves to perform, so I'm hoping it will go well for her. Fear not, relatives, I will be video taping. Actually we have shot almost no video here, instead have focused on the still pictures... usually it is just too much for me to manage with both cameras and Sophia, but this occasion calls for as much technology as possible!

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

Thoughts on the lost holiday traditions of China

I was talking with a friend tonight, who commented on our Christmas preparations, and we got into a conversation about holiday traditions in China for the Spring Festival...Chun Jie (also known as Chinese New Year. We have been trying to get people to tell us where are the best places in China to see customs associated with Chinese New Year. In our minds, we are thinking about Lion Dances and fireworks, everyone dressed in silk outfits, you know, like Chinatown in San Francisco or New York. Michael's students have been stressing that usually only families gather together at home or in a restaurant. Our friend added that during the Cultural Revolution, the old traditions, the folk beliefs, and traditional customs were forbidden and considered dangerous thinking. He pointed out that when his parents' generation were children, these customs were mostly gone from mainland China. What remains are the traditional foods, and the giving of hong bao "lucky money" to children and unmarried young people. Families travel long distances to be reunited. He thought that in remote areas of China maybe some of the more colorful customs remain. One more example of the legacy of the "hidden" past of recent Chinese history casting its shadow.

Riding the "potty train" in China


Yes I am weird enough to post this picture on the blog -- hey there are grandparents out there reading this! We have to recognize Sophia's big milestone, after all -- her first day of potty training. Not too bad really -- we located a suitable potty chair and pulled out one of her Christmas gifts early ("Once Upon a Potty" - thanks to Aunt Mary) and five minutes after we got home she had had her first (and regrettably, only) success of the day. Some challenges of this process are going to be our mobile, pedestrian lifestyle, and the high cost of pull ups (twice as much as diapers), not to mention the dire condition of most public restrooms, but on the plus side -- its not my carpeting and toddlers are running around in spilt pants peeing on the sidewalk anyway (see previous posts on split pants -- hey maybe I'll get some!) And she does seem somewhat ready -- verbal, dry for long periods and naps, convinced she is a big girl, etc. The Chinese do this very young-- beginning really in the first year when the caregiver learns to read the baby's signals and position them accordingly. So by 18 months they are done and pretty self sufficient. Sophia is big for a 2 year old here and the oldest child in China still wearing diapers, and she is right at the upper edge of the largest size -- so the die is cast! Helen's tutor was completely entranced by "Once Upon a Potty" with its cute, yet graphic illustrations of the process and to quote-- "we would never have this book!"

This is all part of my master plan to wheedle Sophia's way into the nursery school on campus a few mornings a week next semester. She misses the birthday cut-off by 3 weeks, but if I can just get her toilet trained I think they would maybe work around that. I am itching to enroll in a more intensive Chinese course, but would surely need more time to do it than Michael can really spare, so we'll see what unfolds.

Sunday, December 9, 2007

Christmas season comes to Xiamen


I returned to Xiamen in the middle of the night on Friday...That had not been my original plan. My travel to and from the US had me changing airports in Shanghai (from international to domestic airport), a one hour trip by shuttle bus across the city on the highway. Well, on the way there it took one hour and on the way back it took over 2 hours...so I missed my flight to Xiamen, discovered I had to pay the higher fare for the last flight. Discovered that I was 20 yuan (about $3 US) short to buy the new ticket; discovered that at the airport they don't take credit cards, there was no currency exchange (except past security, but you need a boarding pass to get there), and the lone ATM was out of order. I was on the verge of panhandling for yuan from other travellers, but I finally persuaded the ticket agent to accept $20 US for part of the fare. His quote, "Well, you should know better...this is China".

Welcome re-entry culture shock after a week of credit card shopping in Michigan with my parents... by the way, my mom is still doing well, recovering at home after her surgery and will start further treatment after the holidays. So she and the family have a little breather. Her quick recovery did give me time to do some serious shopping in the US, especially warm weather fall clearance clothes for me, as I have actually lost enough weight to need them, gifts for the kids, BOOKS (walking into Barnes and Noble was an out of body experience), African American hair care products and the ingredients for fudge for our holidays in the guesthouse.
First day back was great, really felt like coming home -- warm and sunny with a light breeze, and we had tickets to the expatriate Christmas party at the Sofitel downtown. It was a lavish meal (see above) with games out on the terrace for all the kids...I am guessing pretty much every "foreign" kid in Xiamen was here with their parents...we had all the trimmings : crafts --


kids of all ages in their finery...


Face painting...



Helen was so proud of her face paint, she wanted to walk around on the street near campus afterwards so "people can see it and know its Christmas time"




We had "The Night Before Christmas"...(since Thomas spent a fair part of the party hiding from the other 6th graders --both girls-- who were at the party, while eating an enormous quantity of food, this is the only picture of him)



And finally an appearance by a very slim and trim Santa, who brought a book for every child...




Sophia was quite mystified by it all, but Helen is in Christmas glory...Santa gave her a book with a locket in it..a copy of this book was left in our apartment by the previous occupants, sans the locket of course. Helen said, "I have wished and wished for that locket and Santa knows so now I have one"



Afterwards it was back to our place to set up our little tree, which really does brighten up the place. Lots of stores sell some simple decorations, so I think Christmas, or at least XMAS, must be pretty popular with folks here.












Here they are..all ready for the big day...they wrote letters to Santa today, since a visit to the Crossroads Mall in Portage, Michigan (where we usually catch up with Santa with the cousins) is not in the works. We found Santa's address on the web. Apparently the North Pole mail is delivered by the Canadian Postal Service, since the address we found was North Pole, Canada, H0H0H0 (the zip code of course).
Now back to the routine of the week, which I am looking forward to after my travels...I am so jet lagged that it doesn't even make sense..awake at weird times and starving in the middle of the night--go figure.

Wednesday, December 5, 2007

princess diaries

Yes, Sophia has a full-blown cold and can only breathe clearly when she has some medication. So she is not sleeping well and can be a little bit cranky and obstinate at times (which, for those of you who know her, is not really out of character). But on the whole she is her usual sweet self.

This morning after getting the older kids off the school, I tried to re-do portions of Sophia's hair. So to get her to sit I finally relented to her constant demand and put a movie in. I played "The Nutcracker", a BBC version of the full-blown ballet that the kids like to watch around Christmas time.

After watching in rapt attention while I did her hair, she left at the first opportunity, went into her room and pulled out the princess dresses to wear like the dancers.

Here she is studying their moves close-up.

Sophia pulled me out of the chair to dance with her. We had to hold hands, raise our free arm up, and swing our leg out. She was very clear on this procedure.

Below you can see her pose. She kept looking at her hand for each shot and I thought maybe it was "dirty" or something was wrong.

Then I realized that she was trying to make the $#@ peace sign like her brother and every Chinese person under 30.

Tuesday, December 4, 2007

Fia wants "uppee" and gets a cold

On Monday and Tuesday evenings I teach from 7-9:30 pm. Last night I only taught until 8:30 and then went back to put the kids to bed. Our neighbors Deborah and Kate were up here with the kids, but with all the excitement there was no chance of sleep.

Without Ann, I cannot go to the office to prepare my lectures. Because students in China are quite a bit more passive, it is difficult (likely impossible) to carry the class with discussion. Also, students have difficulty following in English. So I write lectures and I put the material on PowerPoint slides so that they can read and listen at the same time. This seems to help their comprehension.

Without my office, I am preparing for class in the apartment with my new office partner - Sophia. By the way, her name means wisdom - as in philo-sophia (lover of wisdom). Sophia has yet to impart any wisdom for my lectures but instead is usually saying "want uppee!".

As you can see, she is usually successful, and I am preparing for class with my new office partner on my lap.

On the down side, Sophia seems to have come down with a cold just this morning. Her nose is running a bit and she has been sneezing (usually on me). She has not been sleeping very well the last few nights and this has likely contributed.

Otherwise, she wants you to know that she is a girl. She very much wants you to know that she is a girl. She's not Sophia, she's a girl. She's not hungry, she's a girl.

My mom is home

Very glad to be able to report that my mom was discharged from the hospital today and is now home. The joke is that soon brain surgery will be outpatient!!! Seriously, she is recovering well and there was no reason to keep her. She will see her surgeon next week for follow up. I am decorating their Christmas tree today as my project for the day, and it feels quite seasonal with snow on the ground and more predicted. I am glad I will have a few days with her home before I leave on Thursday. Definitely missing Michael and the kids...I truly feel a world away from our life there -- almost as if it was all a dream, now that I am back among the familiar world of middle America..driving around in my minivan, stopping at Walgreen's...it is all so familiar. My internal clock has readjusted too, just in time to go back. Thanks again for all the prayers and wishes....

Saturday, December 1, 2007

Basketball Jones

A generally restful Saturday in Xiamen for the kids. We did splurge 39 RMB (around $5) on a new basketball, which then generated trouble for the rest of the day as they squabbled over who got to hold the basketball.

Sophia, Helen and I shot some baskets on the big courts near the west gate for a few minutes around noontime (when all the students evacuated for lunch). On the other hand, one of the nearby courts was still filled with young monks from the nearby temple who were shooting hoops together.

I took these photos around dusk in the courtyard in front of our building. I spent the rest of the evening trying to keep them from dribbling the ball inside the apartment.

You lookin' at me?

Huan Huan's Open House

On Friday morning Helen (known throughout The People's Republic as Huan-huan) had an open house in her school. For those who don't know, Helen's school is on the Xiada campus and many of the kids are children of faculty and staff of the university. Sophia and I arrived a little late, but Huan-huan and the kids were having their morning warm soy-drink (what Helen calls "the milk thing").

Helen sits in her regular spot between her friends Rouen and Xiao Meimei. The day's lesson (well, the fake lesson for parent's day - I remember these days when I was a kid) was about the difference between even numbers and odd numbers. Of course, I didn't know that and neither did Huan-huan because it was all in Chinese. Rouen's mother who teaches in engineering then told me what was going on. After I told Helen, it all made sense to her, but I can see how confused she is most days.

The woman sitting down in the right side of the picture is Huan-huan's main teacher, Cai Laoshi, who is very kind to Helen. You may also notice that Sophia managed to insert herself between Helen and Rouen, demanded a seat and was promptly served by all the teachers.

After the lesson it was time for outdoor play. All the kids had to line up and get these cotton pads inserted into their shirts to prevent getting too sweaty. I can assure you that some of the boys needed it.

Here is a nice shot of the play area with the mountain in the background. You can see Helen and Sophia in the right corner.

In the 'boys will be boys' category, there was a posse of little 5 year old boys who had gotten hold of the jump-ropes and began to rope various items, especially the bridge you see above, but invariably each other, etc.

Huan-huan wanted me to take the picture below because it is such a beautiful scene. I think that even for a 6 year old, she appreciates that her school is between a mountain and the ocean.

Below is a shot of Rouen, Huan-huan's best friend. One of the endearing features of Rouen is that she calls me "Uncle" which is a very Chinese thing to do. At the open house, she pleaded "Uncle, Uncle" and gestured to make clear that she wanted a hobby-horse (isn't that what we used to call them?).

It wasn't easy, as the boys who were riding them were not impressed with my directions about giving one to Rouen. As if they were thinking: "All right guy, I can see that you speak a weird language and that you are big and hairy, but if you want my toy you're gonna have to fight me for it!"

Below is a shot of Xiao Meimei. Her name is a kind of traditional nickname that means "little baby sister" although she is a twin. Maybe her brother is the older one. [I happen to know two twin brothers, and the one that was born 4 minutes ahead of the other never let him forget it!]


And finally, I thought I leave you with a picture that Huan-huan took of Rouen. If you notice Rouen's shirt it reads "Before slow jogging becomes fast running"?!?

You lookin' at me? You lookin' at me?

Update on Mom

Thanks for all your messages. My mom came through her surgery all right and we have been sent home so she can sleep in the ICU tonight. I am so relieved! Of course the road ahead is long, but this was an important first step....
Jet lag is catching up with me, but I did manage to drive my van today without hitting anything. And its going to snow tomorrow.
Keep the prayers for Mom coming. Michael looks like he is doing a great job! But I miss them and long for Xiamen.